Why you should never judge anyone

 

As you grow up, you find that your values change at every step of life. Right now you must have a certain set of values and beliefs that you think will hardly have any external influence or undergo any major change in the future. But trust me, they can. 

I’ve always admired and liked grounded and humble people, and have had a negative view of arrogant people. Not that I ever hated them, like with all my heart and soul, but I generally never found them of any use to even talk to. I just used to keep myself away from such people as they attracted negativity for me. 

But, surprisingly (because I’d never thought this would ever happen), it's not the case anymore. I don't promote arrogance, conceit or anything as such, but hear me out. First, I'd like to clarify that there are two kinds of excessively proud people; one, who are proud of their genealogy, financially well-off family or parents, higher caste or status in the society, and so on; two, who are proud of themselves because they've always been good at everything in their life or have done something huge through hard work. Here I'll talk about the latter ones. 

It's so easy for us sometimes to criticize someone for some reason, but do we need ever to realize the reason for why a certain someone is the way they are? Yes? And you wouldn't be like them even if you had to go through what they have been through? Yes? Yes. And still, you shouldn't be judging them for what they are. Here's why. 

It is way easier for a person to look pretty who's born pretty (according to what the world thinks pretty is), than for someone who's not even if they invest a lot of time and effort into looking pretty. No matter how lazy the former person is, to get up and do some skincare, and no matter the hard work of the latter person to work on their skin and body, people will always, always appreciate the beauty of the former one. They will be valued everywhere they go. In the same way, it is way more difficult for a miser to do charity than it is for a generous person. It is more difficult for a person with Type A personality to not get irritated and remain calm than it is for a person with Type B personality. It is difficult for an arrogant person to be modest but not for a humble person to be so. 

Now when I look at some of theirs hard work that they have done and are very proud of it, I feel it's justifiable. Even if I remain humble and grounded no matter how much I achieve, I am no one to judge those who are not. I appreciate them for what they are because they dare to be who they truly are. Because I could never. I could never be myself if I thought that such and such a thing is not good or not appreciable. 

I feel everyone carries uniqueness in them and that's what makes us all special. I don't justify criminals or anything, but it's just basic human nature sometimes to inevitably do things that others might repel. Having said that, we all should be merciful and forgivable. These are, I feel, the greatest of virtues.